Tara Sophia Mohr | Playing Big

Tara Sophia Mohr, Playing Big. Find Your VOICE, Your MISSION, and Your MESSAGE.

Good stuff + upcoming SF Bay Area events

Hi all!

It’s been a whirlwind couple of weeks getting the Playing Big book into the world. I’ll share some reflections on the book tour soon, but for today – some links and some announcements about upcoming events.

My recent visit to the Today Show with Hoda and Kathie Lee – video here.

An interview about the book on Maria Shriver’s NBC.com site

My in-depth interview with Tami Simon on my favorite podcast, Insights at the Edge

My video chat with Kate Northrup

And, I have a few public events in the Bay Area coming up in the next couple weeks – see below. I would love to see you there! (Texans – I will also be at the Texas Conference for Women in Austin in November!)

 

Book Signings in SF Area

East West Bookstore Lecture & Book Signing
Saturday Oct 25, 2014 7:30pm PT
324 Castro Street
Mountain View, CA 94041
Call to reserve tickets: 650-988-9800

Speak To Me Book Talk & Signing
Oct 28, 2014 6:30 pm PT
Mill Valley Community Center
Cascade Room, 180 Camino Alto
Mill Valley, CA 94941

Impact Guild presents Playing Big by Tara Mohr Book Talk & Signing
Sunday, Nov 2, 2014 from 3:30 – 5:30pm PT
University Club of Palo Alto
3277 Miranda Ave
Palo Alto, CA 94304

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“Luminous, deep, and practical. I’ve asked every woman in my all-woman company to put Playing Big first on their reading list. We want to make a difference in the world, we want to live full-on, and we know that our passion is powerful. We need this! Playing Big is like a torch that shows you where assumptions you’ve been holding could be holding you back — even if you think you’re using your power to the fullest.” – Danielle Laporte

I see so many women getting stuck because of this.

I see so many women getting stuck because of this: they are turning to their friends and family for feedback – on their ideas, their projects, their burgeoning dreams.

It’s natural. We’re thinking about something – a potential career change, a business idea, something we’d love to create. And next, some little voice in us wants to know: Is it a good idea? Am I crazy?

So we venture out – and we talk to the people closest to us – our friends and family – about whatever we are thinking about. That part inside of us that wants the bolstering, the affirmation, says, “So what do you think?”

And then it’s tough, because 1) a lot of the time they don’t get it, don’t like it, don’t think the idea is a good idea or 2) even if they do like it, have you noticed how their validation doesn’t really set you free to start taking action, it just makes you want to go get more emotional validation from others?

Here’s what I recommend. Do not go to your family and friends for feedback on whatever new idea/project/career move you are considering. What we get from friends and family is just too layered – full of their love for us, their desire for us to be safe, their own experiences, their own fears. (Are there exceptions to this? Yes, of course! But most of the time, making this shift does help us start moving forward towards our dreams more.)

Let dear friends and family play that incredibly powerful role that family and friends can play – in loving you, in cheering you on, in being there to commiserate with you when it is tough, to laugh about the crazy moments along the way. Go to friends and family for support – not for feedback.

For feedback – on whether the career move is viable, whether the potential business has a market, whether that title for your book is as compelling as you think it is – all that kind of stuff – go to the people you want to influence and reach with your work. If the book is for young adult women, ask a few of them what they think of the title! If the potential business would serve busy working families, get their feedback on the concept. Ask recruiters or hiring mangers in your desired field about how the career move you want to make could work.

Get feedback from the people you want to influence and serve – only they have the perspective to be able to give you accurate information on the feasibility of your idea.

This means, yes, you may have to the sometimes difficult thing of asking explicitly for what you want from family and friends, for example – “I’m super excited about this new business idea! I’m going to test it out with potential customers, but what I really would so appreciate is some cheerleading along the way here – I’ve never done something like this before and I’m kinda scared!”

This can be a little hard to do at first, but it is so good to get in the habit of having that conversation with friends, spouses and family members – to tell each other what you are looking for when you bring a topic with them. It’s good for you to get in the habit of asking them too “What are you looking for from me right now – advice, my personal opinion, or cheering you on/ emotional support?”

Got it? Go to family and friends for support. For feedback, go to the people you want to influence and serve through your work.

We talk about this and much more about feedback – how important it is, how not to get “hooked” by it, and how to get the right kind of feedback to further your dreams – in the Playing Big book!

I so want for you to experience the comprehensive journey to Playing Big that is in the book, so I hope you will join me in getting your copy today.

And if you’d like to spread the word about the book, I’d so appreciate it! Tweets, FB shares, pinnable images, and more goodies to make that easy for you are all HERE.

Love to you,

Tara

“At last. At last this very important book has been written, encouraging women to take up all the creative space they deserve in the world. I hope it will empower legions of women to step into their greatness. I couldn’t be happier about this publication.” - Elizabeth Gilbert, author of The Signature of All Things and Eat, Pray, Love.

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A Special Gift for Those You Love

One of the things that’s been most sweet for me this week is talking to women about the people they plan to give the Playing Big book to.

“I’m giving it to my niece.”
“I got one for my daughter-in-law.”
“I bought one for each woman on my team at work.”
“My dear friend and I are going to read this together.”

So much fun in sharing something you are excited about with another woman in your life – and then getting to talk about it! And so much beauty in how we are supporting one another in playing bigger.

So I thought I’d do something fun around that.

For today and tomorrow: when you order three or more copies of the book, I’ll send you signed bookplates, personalized to the woman you want to give them books to – with their names and a note.

You get a little holiday shopping done early – and you’ve got a great gift to give to some women you love.

Here’s how it works – forward your receipt to taramohr@taramohr.com and include 1) your mailing address and 2) the names you’d like inscribed in the books.

This little inscription shop closes at noon PST on Friday October 17th, so send us your receipt by then! Click here to get your copies from Amazon.com, or here from Barnes and Noble.com and here from Indiebound.com .

Love,

Tara

“At last. At last this very important book has been written, encouraging women to take up all the creative space they deserve in the world. I hope it will empower legions of women to step into their greatness. I couldn’t be happier about this publication.” - Elizabeth Gilbert, author of The Signature of All Things and Eat, Pray, Love.

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The book is officially out!

I’m in a gorgeous little hotel in New York City – a sanctuary of beauty and stunning design.

There’s a bookstore around the corner, a great bookstore – the kind that makes you grateful bookstores are part of civilization, the kind of bookstore that serves really good soup in its cafe, the kind that makes you want to wander and wander through every corner and read everything.

Today, I will be walking over to that bookstore to see my book, out in the wild.

Because today is the first day the book will be out on shelves in the world. Still trying to wrap my head around that.

It’s a busy day. I’ll be visiting Hoda and Kathie Lee this morning (you can tune in at 10:38am), then off to Levo League for a taping for their site, then to sit down with Jonathan Fields. Cuddles with my little guy in between (yes, of course he’s coming to the Today show!)

So today is the first day you can order the book with an easy click and get it shipped to you right away.

I’m so honored that Elizabeth Gilbert, author of The Signature of All Things and Eat, Pray, Love, had this to say about the book:

“At last. At last this very important book has been written, encouraging women to take up all the creative space they deserve in the world. I hope it will empower legions of women to step into their greatness. I couldn’t be happier about this publication.”

May Playing Big be a companion and source of strength and transformational new ideas to you – the same way so many beloved books have been to me in my life. May it help you shine more of your light.

Click HERE to get the book!

Love,

Tara

Last few days…

Good morning!

Hubbie, baby, and I got into to New York City at almost midnight last night – our first long flight with the little guy. He was a champ, and – to make life extra-interesting for his parents- – decided to spring his first tooth mid-flight!

I love New York City so much – my soul is in a perpetual happy dance state while I’m here, and arriving last night, something in me couldn’t stop saying, “Home sweet home.”

Tomorrow I’ll be speaking at the Emerging Women Conference, and then I head into a week of book tour activities – speaking engagements, Today Show (Tuesday), and lots of other good stuff.

Last week my husband asked me what kind of vacation I might like to take when all this is done, and I thought about it, and said back to him – I feel like I am already having my ideal vacation – my book tour! That’s the truth. Being in New York, talking to people about the ideas that matter so much to me, and (let’s be honest) some professional hair and make up sessions too? Honestly, that’s my kind of fun. It takes a little courage for me to say that, but it’s the truth.

The Playing Big book will be officially out in the world on sale beginning next Tuesday – so exciting! These are the last few days to preorder a copy of the book and get the special bonuses – two Q&A calls with me (you can call in live or listen to the audio recording) and some other goodies. Click HERE to learn more and get your book!

Sending love,

Tara