Words for Hard Times
I wrote a long post about belonging and loneliness – about our desire to belong and how it shows up in healthy and unhealthy ways. I like you so, I’m sparing you. The writing went circles. It was stilted, messy, in conflict with itself. But at the end of my long struggle with [...]
I don’t know why the thought occurred to me, but it did. It showed up suddenly, fully formed, like a telegram delivered. I was sitting in my office at home, feeling disappointed about something that hadn’t worked out the way I’d hoped. And suddenly popped up the thought: “Instead of thinking about your [...]
Even in the struggle, you are loved. You are being loved not in spite of the hardship, but through it. The thing you see as wrenching, intolerable, life’s attack on you, is an expression of love. There is the part of us that fears and protects and defends and expects, and has a [...]
A remarkable thing happened to me on Friday. One of those graced moments when the light bulb goes on, when the click clicks. I had a solitary week. I had aimed to clear a lot of time for writing, but I cleared too much. Around 4pm on Friday, I started to crave [...]
You’ve got a heart. You know that part. But what is the container like that holds your heart? When you heart speaks, how do you listen? How do you speak back to it? When your heart moves, what kind of landscape have you created for it to move in? We can’t always [...]
Hi there, I’m so happy to welcome new visitors and readers who read yesterday’s guest post at Kind Over Matter. I love the spirit, community, and vision of Kind Over Matter. I love the idea that through the work I do I just might be able to support creative young women (which much [...]
I’m writing from a sunny, beautiful, paradise place where I’m so thrilled to be spending a week. It’s fascinating to me that it actually is easier for me to slow down and be present in this environment. I feel it when I have the impulse to leave myself, or leave the moment, and I [...]
True surrender is easily misunderstood as passivity, as doing nothing. It’s actually a change in stance, a change in state of being. It’s a softening, a coming home to. It’s what we receive when we’ve made peace with life, and become its partner, arm in arm. Before surrender, we act alone. We act [...]
Good morning. I’ve had a little bit of a crazy week, with a very intense back and forth trip from San Francisco to Phoenix on Sunday. I haven’t quite recalibrated, caught up on sleep, or found my writing self again. How are you doing this week? I feel out of touch! This [...]
In case you’ve forgotten, I just wanted to remind you of something important. I needed to be reminded about it, and I have a feeling you do too. A few weeks ago I was having coffee with a friend. I hadn’t seen her in months, but she’d been receiving my email newsletter so she [...]
