Note: Although this course is no longer open for registration, I’d love to have you join me for an upcoming session of the Playing Big Course.


A little over a year ago, I sat down on my couch and wrote an article called “10 Rules for Brilliant Women.” I was scared to hit the publish button. I even remember trembling a little. That’s how I feel when I write something that is really, really true for me.
I wrote it from the heart, after years of watching the brilliant women in my life — friends, coaching clients, colleagues — not see their own brilliance.
Because they couldn’t see their brilliance, they weren’t really sharing it in their workplaces or the world.
They weren’t totally hiding — but they weren’t boldly or fully sharing their ideas either.
And oh, did I mention? That was me too: not totally hiding — but not boldly sharing my voice.
I wanted that to be different. There was a lot in me that wanted to be expressed.
I started finding my way back, step by step, to sharing my voice with greater confidence and authenticity. And I fell in love with the work of helping other brilliant women do that too.
What do I mean by brilliant? I don’t mean you scored perfect on the science tests in high school. I mean your unique brilliance. Maybe it’s your problem solving ability. Maybe it’s your vision for your community’s school gardens. Maybe it’s your ability to nurture others or put them at ease.
You have a unique brilliance, and the world needs it.
Since I wrote the 10 Rules, they have been embraced by tens of thousands of women around the world. They’ve been shared at Huffington Post, More, and most recently, on The Today Show.
The rules are a jumping off point, a first step. They remind us, they nudge us, they inspire us — but they don’t show us howhow to shift into living them.
That requires more than reading an article. It requires experiential learning, putting new ways of being into practice, and getting support from other like-minded women.
That is why I’m trying out a new idea this Fall, and I hope you’ll join me. Based on the tools that have made the greatest difference to me and the women I work with, I’m expanding on the 10 rules through five-week experiential journey.

We’ll focus in depth on five major concepts from the rules:

1. Going for the Gasps: a.k.a. getting out of your comfort zone and into your stretch zone
2. Imaging it: Creating your vision for a “knock-the-ball-out-of-the-park” life
3. Making a Pact: Developing a kinder, more supportive relationship with yourself – to power you toward your goals
4. Getting a Thick Skin: Becoming less afraid of criticism and failure – to free you up for bold action
5. Cultivating Your “Arrogant Idiot:” learning how to put your ideas out there – before you feel ready or when you know they aren’t perfect
The five -week journey is:
Part class: with content from me – tools, tips, exercises that are give you practical (yes, practical) ways to start living the rules in your daily life.
Part conversation and community: a chance to get to connect with other great women who are excited about living their brilliance more fully.

Here’s the nuts and bolts of how it works

:: a weekly Thursday one-hour call, through the month of November. You can attend the calls live on Thursday evenings OR afternoons through November, OR listen to the recordings whenever it’s convenient for you.
:: written materials, worksheets and exercises from Tara
:: a private social network group where you can connect with the other participants
:: the ability to download the phone session recordings and the written materials — so you’ll have access to them forever.

You’ll come away with:

:: a personalized statement of the new ways you want to relate to and support yourself, as well as practices for creating that new way of being with yourself
:: a clear and resonant vision for your future – for both your life and you work – that will help you steer your path, stay inspired, and evaluate opportunities
:: having stepped into bold action in at least one area where you’ve been stuck
:: a new understanding of how to manage fears and your inner critic when they arise
:: less fear of criticism and failure, freeing you up to share your brilliance – even when it feels risky or isn’t welcomed by all
:: the ability to share and move into action around your ideas more quickly and more flexibly, circumventing your inner perfectionist



What are the 10 Rules for Brilliant Women?


Wondering what the 10 Rules are? Here they are!

1. Make a pact. No one else is going to build the life you want for you. No one else will even be able to completely understand it. The most amazing souls will show up to cheer you on along the way, but this is your game. Make a pact to be in it with yourself for the long haul, as your own supportive friend at every step along the way.
2. Imagine it. What does a knock-the-ball-out-of-the-park life look like for you? What is the career that seems so incredible you think it’s almost criminal to have it? What is the dream you don’t allow yourself to even consider because it seems too unrealistic, frivolous, or insane? Start envisioning it. That’s the beginning of having it.
3. Gasp. Start doing things that make you gasp and get the adrenalin flowing. Ask yourself, “What’s the gasp-level action here?” Your fears and a tough inner critic will chatter in your head. That’s normal, and just fine. When you hear that repetitive, irrational, mean inner critic, name it for what it is, and remember, it’s just a fearful liar, trying to protect you from any real or seeming risks. Go for the gasps and learn how false your inner critic’s narrative really is, and how conquerable your fears.
4. Get a thick skin. If you take risks, sometimes you’ll get a standing ovation, and sometimes, people will throw tomatoes. Can you think of any leader or innovator whom you admire who doesn’t have enthusiastic fans and harsh critics? Get used to wins and losses, praise and pans, getting a call back and being ignored. Work on letting go of needing to be liked and needing to be universally known as “a nice person.”
5. Be an arrogant idiot. Of course I know you won’t, because you never could. But please, just be a little more of an arrogant idiot. You know those guys around the office who share their opinions without thinking, who rally everyone around their big, (often unformed) ideas? Be more like them. Even if just a bit. You can afford to move a few inches in that direction.
6. Question the voice that says “I’m not ready yet.” I know, I know. Because you are so brilliant and have such high standards, you see every way that you could be more qualified. You notice every part of your idea that is not perfected yet. While you are waiting to be ready, gathering more experience, sitting on your ideas, our friends referenced in rule five are being anointed industry visionaries, getting raises, and seeing their ideas come to life in the world. They are no more ready than you, and perhaps less. Jump in the sandbox now, and start playing full out. Find out just how ready you are.
7. Don’t wait for your Oscar. Don’t wait to be praised, anointed, or validated. Don’t wait for someone to give you permission to lead. Don’t wait for someone to invite you to share your voice. No one is going to discover you. (Well, actually, they will, but paradoxically, only after you’ve started boldly and consistently stepping into leadership, sharing your voice, and doing things that scare the hell out of you.)
8. Filter advice. Most brilliant women are humble and open to guidance. We want to gather feedback and advice. Fine, but recognize that some people won’t understand what you are up to (often because you are saying something new and ahead of your time). Some people will find you to be not their cup of tea. Some will feel threatened. Some people will want to do with your idea only what is interesting or helpful to them. So interpret feedback carefully. Test advice and evaluate the results, rather than following it wholesale.
9. Recover and restore. If you start doing the things that make you gasp, doing what you don’t quite feel ready to do, and being more of an arrogant idiot, you are going to be stretching out of our comfort zone–a lot. Regularly do things that feel safe, cozy, and restorative. Vent to friends when you need to. Acknowledge the steps you’ve taken. Watch your tank to see how much risk-taking juice you have available to you. When it’s running low, stop, recover and restore.
10. Let other women know they are brilliant. Let them know what kind of brilliance you see, and why it’s so special. Call them into greater leadership and action. Let them know that they are ready. Watch out for that subtle, probably unconscious thought, “because I had to struggle and suffer on my way up…they should have to too.” Watch out for thinking this will “take” too much time — when the truth is it always has huge, often unexpected returns.
Clear a path by walking it, boldly.


Frequently Asked Questions

I’m interested, but I’m so busy. How much time does this take?

The calls take about an hour a week. In addition to that, expect to spend about 30 minutes a week on homework. The facebook group where you can connect with the other participants is completely optional.

What’s the actual schedule?

The live calls will take place on these five dates:
Session #1: November 3
Session #2: November 10
Session #3: November 17
Session #4: December 1
Session #5: December 8

For each session, I will hold two calls: one from 12-1pm PST (3pm-4pm EST) and one from 6pm-7pm PST (9pm-10pm EST). You can attend either one.

You don’t need to decide in advance which option you want to attend, and you can go to the afternoon session some weeks, and the evening session the other weeks. The two sessions are there so you can attend live when it works best for you. Or, if neither of those times work in your schedule, you can listen to the call recordings.

Will I be working one-on-one with Tara?

The course takes place primarily in a group format. During every call, you’ll have the opportunity to ask questions and share in the discussion if you’d like. You’ll also have the opportunity to do that online in the forum.

What if I can’t attend the calls — I have other commitments during that time.

No problem! You can listen to the call recordings at your convenience. Many students for my programs listen to the call recordings rather than attend live, and they report that they still get the full learning and experience.

Do I need any special technology?

Just your phone (landline or cell), and an internet connection so you can get the written materials and access the private facebook group for participants.

I am interested in this topic, but I’ve never done a virtual class or e-course before. I’m not sure if that would work for me.

Yup. A lot of people are worried about that before they take their first ecourse. Here are a couple things that may be helpful to you:

1. My courses and groups have a very high continued participation/completion rate. I take a lot of care to make sure the courses are engaging, easy to keep up, and that they feel personal – even though they happen through written materials and the phone.
2. There’s nothing more complicated (technology-speaking) in the course than dialing in to a conference call number and accessible a webpage.

I’m just not sure if this is for me.

If the 10 Rules for Brilliant Women really resonated with you, and you feel like you’d like some more content, tools, and support to help you really start living them, this is for you!


Tara Sophia Mohr is an expert on women’s leadership and well-being. Her work helps women play bigger in their work and in their lives.

With an MBA from Stanford University and her undergraduate degree in English literature from Yale, Tara takes a unique approach that blends inner work with practical skills training, and weaves together both intellectual rigor and intuitive wisdom.

Tara has a deep commitment to amplifying women’s voices. She is the creator of the global Playing Big leadership program for women and the co-creator of two anthologies of contemporary women’s writings, The Women’s Seder Sourcebook and The Women’s Passover Companion.

Her “10 Rules for Brilliant Women” have struck a chord with tens of thousands of women around the world.

In 2010, Tara was honored as a Girl Champion by the Girl Effect organization, which supports girls’ education in the developing world.

Tara is a regular contributor to the Huffington Post and has been featured on The Today Show,, Whole Living,, USA Today, the International Business Times, Ode Magazine, Forbes, Beliefnet, and numerous other media outlets. She is also a poet, and the author of The Real Life: Poems for Wise Living.

{This course is no longer open for registration.}