Tara Sophia Mohr | Playing Big

Tara Sophia Mohr, Playing Big. Find Your VOICE, Your MISSION, and Your MESSAGE.

Last Day to Get Your Signed Holiday Books!

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Good morning!

Are you still looking for gifts for some of your incredible women friends, family members and colleagues?

We’ve got you covered!

Today is the last day to let us know if you’d like to receive our beautiful, signed bookplates for your Playing Big book gifts this year.

For a reminder of how this works, read below, or click the player to download an mp3 file.

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My team and I wanted to make it extra special for you to share Playing Big: Practical Wisdom for Women Who Want to Speak Up, Create and Lead this holiday season.

So, when you order 3 or more copies today, I’ll sign bookplates for your gift recipients! We’ll mail them off to you, and you can personalize them with a note from you.

Your dear ones will receive a *signed* copy of the book and your message in our lovely custom bookplates – just like the one below.

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We’re so excited about this!

Here’s what to do to participate:

Step 1: Purchase 3 or more Playing Big copies from wherever you like to buy books, such as Amazon.com, Barnes and Noble, or Indiebound.

Step 2. Fill out this form to let us know you’re in!

Step 3. Get your bookplates from us in the mail.

Step 4: Give the dear women in your life a personalized, signed Playing Big book this holiday season!

We are closing this offer TODAY Monday, December 5th, at midnight to ensure all the bookplates get out in time for the holiday, so be sure to place your order right away if you want to join us!

Warmly,

Tara

 

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a new favorite question I’m asking myself

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Today I  want to share a new question I came across recently. I’ve been asking myself this question at the end of my day fairly regularly, and I always find the answers that it brings up to be surprising and INCREDIBLY helpful.

It’s this:

What is the character trait of mine
that most got in the way of my happiness today?

The first time I asked myself this question, I’d had a rough day. All day long, my inner critic had been chattering in my head about my body’s changes during this pregnancy, and I was feeling overwhelmed by everything on my plate – the list of parenting, work, and pre-new-baby things I wanted to get done.

So, if you had asked me casually about what was bothering me that day, I would have said, 1) stuff around my body and 2) being overwhelmed.

But then I asked myself that question:

What is the character trait of mine
that most got in the way of my happiness today?

And as I reflected, and journaled about it a bit, the answer was clear: it was a lack of self-acceptance, a lack of being okay with where I am right now – in body and in mind and spirit – that had most gotten in the way of my happiness all day.

It was not the changes in my body, or the length of my to-do list. It was the lack of self-acceptance, of reality-acceptance.

And while I had no ability to change how my body has done this pregnancy, and no ability to add more hours in the day (or more stamina to myself) to get through more of that to-do list, this – the lack of acceptance – was an issue I could do something about.

I could see and feel how this lack of acceptance was hurting me, so I couldn’t just do it unconsciously anymore.

I could practice being more compassionate (and more in touch with reality) about where I really was.

I also asked power greater than myself – life, love, light – to grace me with more self-acceptance in the days to come.

All of that created a powerful shift, and more acceptance did come, and more peace and day-to-day happiness with it.

This isn’t about beating ourselves up, or blaming ourselves for everything. It’s about digging beneath the surface to see what in our own approach, belief system or patterns, is contributing to our unhappiness or stuckness. From there we can make change, change that allows us to address both the internal and external aspects of any problem.

So this is the question I offer you, to ask yourself at the close of your day today: What is the character trait of mine that most got in the way of my happiness today?

If you aren’t resonating with the word “happiness,” of course, you can substitute something like “peace” or even “gratitude” or “calm” – whatever you are aiming for in your day.

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And, the holidays are coming up!

My team and I are so excited to have created something to make it even more special to give the Playing Big book to the dear women in your life this holiday season.

Click HERE to learn about getting your custom, signed bookplates to include with holiday gifts. This is a beautiful way to remind the women in your life of the brilliance you see in them!

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Calling All Women in Academia!

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If you are a woman working in academia (or have some dear friends or family members who are), this note is for you.

Over the past few years, my team and I have been watching something quite notable happening in our work: tremendous adoption of the Playing Big model among women professors, academic advisors, and university staff and administrators.

These women have shared with us how the Playing Big model has helped them:

   • find their own authentic voice and path in their scholarship
   • take on new leadership roles at their institutions
   • mentor and advise in a much more effective way
   • thrive within what can be the very tough culture of academia
   • navigate decisions about pursing work outside of academia

… and much more!

I’m so thrilled about this. It’s personal for me: my own experiences with higher education gave me tremendous gifts, developing my mind, my knowledge, and my community. But my experiences in higher education also showed me the many ways our university cultures are often still male-dominated, and not at all what they could be as places that truly include women’s voices and ideas.

With all of this in mind, we have created some special offerings for women in academia for 2017 and beyond.

If you work in academia or higher education and are interested in learning more about our Playing Big professional development programs and our special cohort for women in academia, sign up HERE to learn more.

We’ll share with you program details as well as supporting materials you can share with your institution if you’d like to explore having your participation funded by them.

To learn more, sign up for our special Women in Academia Interest list HERE.

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Warmly,

Tara & team

Asking Better Questions

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Those of us in the coaching and personal growth fields? We LOVE questions.

I remember vividly the early days of my coaching training, sitting in a circle with fellow students, watching as the teachers – seasoned coaches with decades of experience – asked the short, powerful questions that took their clients swiftly from stuckness to movement, from narrow options to a world of possibilities.

Not because of good advice.
Not because someone analyzed their problems well.
Not even because some encouraged or championed them.

Instead, the client’s problem got solved because someone asked them the right questions, unearthing wisdom and creativity from inside of themselves.

But you don’t have to be a masterful coach with twenty years experience to start asking much better questions.

The most powerful questions we can ask others and ourselves have a few distinguishing qualities:

1. Powerful questions are most often short and simple, usually less than ten words. Think questions like, “What would be your ideal outcome?” or “What else could be possible?” or “What part of this hurts the most?” Long, entangled, cerebral questions (i.e. “Are you saying the issue is more you don’t know what you want, or is it that you don’t think you can get what you want?” or “I’m wondering if you are really telling yourself the truth here, because it sounds like you might not be – what do you think?”) are far less powerful – even though our minds tend to think our long, intricate questions are very important! Our long intricate questions usually reflect our (often wrong) stories and assumptions about what’s going on. Our broader, open-ended questions allow the person being asked to get in touch with what’s really going on.

2. Powerful questions are open-ended. They aren’t yes/no questions, or either/or questions. They don’t prescribe a narrow, binary choice for someone to find an answer within.

3. Powerful questions usually begin with the word “what.” Especially when you hear yourself asking a “why” question, see if you can revise it to a “what” question.

For example, asking yourself, “Why did I pick up that bad habit again today?” is going to send your brain into an analytical hunt for an answer, with a sense of pressure to come up with something – whether it’s the accurate answer or not. A lot of the time, we don’t know our “whys,” especially around the important stuff in our lives.

Instead of “Why did I pick up that bad habit again today?” a similar what question, such as, “What was I feeling in the moments before I picked up the habit?” is likely to be more accessible for you and more fruitful in getting at what was really going on.

Or, to share another example, asking your young adult kid, “So, why do you want to pursue that major in college?” is likely not going to be as helpful in getting at the interesting truths for them compared to asking something like, “What about this major feels most appealing to you?” Thinking about this example, can you also see how “why” questions often put us on the defensive, as if we have to come up with a really good “why”? What questions don’t come with that pressure.

So think of these three criteria when you want to ask yourself, or others, powerful questions that will yield new insights, increase connection, and move a conversation forward. And of course, you can apply all of this to your personal life, but it’s also quite fruitful to use these guidelines in the questions you are asking about what’s happening in our political arena, and your role within it, right now.

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The holidays are coming!

My team and I are so excited to have created something to make it even more special to give the Playing Big book to the dear women in your life this holiday season.

Click HERE to learn about getting your custom, signed bookplates to include with holiday gifts. This is a beautiful way to remind the women in your life of the brilliance you see in them!

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Give the Holiday Gift of Playing Big!

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Hi Everyone!

Today I’m so excited to share with you something special my team and I have been getting ready for you for this holiday season.

When I do book signings, I’m always so touched by the women that come to the table with 3 or 4 or sometimes 7 or 10 copies of Playing Big.

They tell me they are buying the book for all the women in their family, or their team at work, or their dear friends.

It’s been such a delight to see how women love giving this book to each other.

My team and I wanted to make it extra special for you to share Playing Big: Practical Wisdom for Women Who Want to Speak Up, Create and Lead this holiday season.

So, when you order 3 or more copies now through December 5th, I’ll sign bookplates for your gift recipients! We’ll mail them off to you, and you can personalize them with a note from you.

Your dear ones will receive a *signed* copy of the book and your message in our lovely custom bookplates – just like the one below.

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We’re so excited about this!

Here’s what to do to participate:

Step 1: Purchase 3 or more Playing Big copies from wherever you like to buy books, such as Amazon.com, Barnes and Noble, or Indiebound.

Step 2. Fill out this form to let us know you’re in!

Step 3. Get your bookplates from us in the mail.

Step 4: Give the dear women in your life a personalized, signed Playing Big book this holiday season!

We’ll be closing this offer on Monday, December 5th to ensure all the bookplates get out in time for the holiday, so be sure to place your order right away if you want to join us!

Warmly,

Tara

 

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