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Recent Faves + Free Workshop for You

Good Morning!

I’m filled up after a weekend at the Emerging Women conference, where I heard so many inspiring women speak what they know to be true. I’ll be sharing some of my favorite ideas and learnings with you in the weeks to come.

Today I want to share with you a few of my other favorite things I’ve taken in lately, and I also want to invite you to a free, online workshop I’m offering this week.

So first, the recent favorite things I loved so much I simply can’t not share them with you:

Photo of Mary Catherine Bateson by Tom Starkweather/Bloomberg via Getty Images)

Photo of Mary Catherine Bateson by Tom Starkweather/Bloomberg via Getty Images)

On Being podcast interview with anthropologist and wise woman Mary Catherine Bateson. Beautiful. Revolutionary. Healing. Listen to this woman!!

On Being podcast interview with pioneering social psychologist Ellen Langer. Inspiring. Provocative. Validating. Listen to this woman, too!

And, for the teen in your life – especially if that teen is searching, struggling with cliques or body image issues, or simply could love themselves and their lives more, the book FLAWD: How to Stop Hating on Yourself, Others, and the Things That Make You Who You Are by Emily-Anne Rigal, Barnard College student and founder WeStopHate.org.

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What Works & Why: A Free Workshop on Supporting Women to Play Bigger from the Inside Out

Today I also want to invite you to a free workshop about the Playing Big model and my upcoming Facilitators Training.

I know many of you are new here, so let me start from the beginning about what this is.

For many years, I coached one brilliant woman after another who was, in one way or another, being held back by fear and self-doubt.

I wanted to live in a world shaped and changed and run by these brilliant women.

I wanted them to feel the joy (and have the success) of living out their brilliance.

And, I knew I was just like them. I was tired of being run by fear and self-doubt, too.

I started to experiment with tools and ideas from psychology, contemplative spiritual traditions, coaching, and business to see what would truly enable these brilliant women to play bigger.

The patterns of what worked to help them were clear, consistent, and, given the conventional ways we think about women’s lives and careers, very surprising.

What I learned became a toolkit, an arc, for personal change and professional expansion. It became the Playing Big model that I teach and write about .

I teach a course called the Playing Big Facilitators Training for women who want to play bigger in their own lives and careers, and help the women they mentor, manage, parent, coach or otherwise serve to do the same.

This Wednesday I’ll be giving a free workshop that can help you get a feel for what the training is like. When you sign up, you can choose to attend live OR receive the recording.

IF you are curious, and think this course may be for you, please sign up to join us for the free workshop HERE!

That’s it!

Thanks, as always, for reading and being on this journey with me.



You are Invited: The Playing Big Facilitators Training


For a while now, I’ve noticed a theme showing up again and again in the conversations I have with women.

Some are coaches or therapists, and feel particularly called to use the vehicle or their coaching or therapy practice to help women live more empowered, fulfilling, and yes – even revolutionary – lives.

Others are managers or leaders working inside organizations. They’ve discovered that they’re most inspired and happy at work when they are developing the people around them, and seeing them grow.

Others work in health or wellness, and are looking to bring more emotional, relational and even spiritual tools for personal change to their work so that it can have a greater impact.

Still others work in academia or education, and spend much of their time mentoring and advising students. They are looking for better tools to do this – so that they can truly support the younger people in front of them, in the ways they wish they themselves had been supported.

I see myself as a part of a shared tribe with all of these women – women who come alive when they can help others fulfill more of their potential. Women who have a particular calling to help other women create more thrilling, resonant lives and careers because they know that is going to change the world for the much better.

These women aren’t only passionate about helping others play bigger – they’ve got their own longings to play bigger within, but often they haven’t quite found the way to line up those longings with swift and bold action. Often, the people around them may not totally understand or be able to help with their playing bigger dreams (that’s totally normal!), and a separate-from-their-day-to-day life, and supportive community can really help.

It’s this community of women that have been coming together for the Playing Big Facilitators Training. It’s a six-month journey of growth and learning. You’ll learn the powerful Playing Big model and toolkit that I developed out of my own work with women that’s now helped thousands of women play bigger – on their own terms.

This training is for both your own playing bigger and to enhance the work that you do with others – coaching, counseling, managing or mentoring.

Registration for our next session opens today. You can learn all about it HERE.

With gratitude –


over at goop & Harvard Business Review

Good morning!

I’m in New York this week – one of my favorite places in the world. It’s always so good to be here, especially in the Fall, and especially this time around when I get to show it to a toddler who is very excited about all the action here.

I wanted to share with you…

This new article over at goop on How to Negotiate, written by myself and attorney, negotiation expert & Playing Big guest teacher Carrie Gallant. We share our personal stories – how we each have completely abandoned ourselves in negotiation situations in the past – and how we (thank goodness!) are learning to stop doing that. And we share our perspectives on all kinds of questions that come up for women around negotiating.

I believe we all negotiate in one way or another, every day. I also believe that for women especially, each negotiation conversation ends up being a definitively disempowering experience or a healing and empowering one. Each negotiation will either teach us a negative lesson about our needs and life’s ability to meet them, or a positive lesson about that. So let’s create the right story for ourselves. You can check out that article here.

The second article I want to share with you I’m also so excited about. It’s a piece I wrote for Harvard Business Review, about how to respond to the self-doubt or inner critic voice when you encounter it in others. This is relevant, of course, for coaches and therapists, but also for any of us who manage, teach, or mentor – because we all come up against the voice of self-doubt in the people we aim to support. It’s one of the biggest barriers to our teams performing at their best, to our mentees reaching their potential. And of course, we all also want to respond wisely, and constructively when we hear the harsh self-criticisms or insecurities in our partners, children, and other loved ones. We often think the answer is to encourage or compliment in response – but there’s a more powerful, helpful way to respond. Check out that article here.

With gratitude,


how to treat your creative baby

liz gilbert

In college and graduate school, I often felt like I was being battered and beaten by the way my writing was evaluated by professors and teaching assistants – coldly, cerebrally, with words and a tone that reflected no sense of how vulnerable it feels to share one’s work.

I, like most of us, walked away from higher education with some serious wounds to my creativity.

It took me nearly a decade to write creatively again.

I had to get sick of that grayed-out, stuck, resentful feeling I get when I’m not creating. And I had to find a whole new way of thinking of creative work – mainly, that it was for my fulfillment and self-expression, not for anyone else’s evaluation.

Over the past few months, I’ve been savoring the essays about creative living from from Elizabeth Gilbert’s new book, Big Magic.

In my view, creativity isn’t just a topic for those of us engaged with the arts. It’s for any woman who has a longing or a dream she is working toward, or trying to find the courage to start working toward, because that process – of bringing a dream into reality – that is the creative process.

And honestly, I think creative living is particularly important for women, because for women to shake up the very messed up status quo, we need to bring forth our honest, original critiques of it and our visions for change. Doing that requires everything Liz is talking about – trusting your inspiration, wrestling with fear, giving yourself permission.

Liz’s take is so original, and I love that it’s based on her hard-won lessons from decades of her own creative living.

Every other page of my copy is dog-eared. I’ll share with you a few heart-stirring lines to take with you.

“To even call somebody ‘a creative person’ is almost laughably redundant; creativity is the hallmark of our species… The guardians of high culture will try to convince you that the arts belong only to a chosen few, but they are wrong and they are also annoying. We are all the chosen few. We are all makers by design.”

“We have to be careful of how we handle our fear–because I’ve noticed that when people try to kill off their fear, they often end up inadvertently murdering their creativity in the process.”

“You can believe you are neither a slave to inspiration nor its master, but something far more interesting–its partner–and that the two of you are working together toward something intriguing and worthwhile.”

“I promised that I would never never ask writing to take care of me financially, but that I would always take care of it — meaning that I would always support us both, by any means necessary.”

And one of my favorite, favorite ideas, one that went “boom!” in my mind and had me thinking about it for weeks (still thinking about it actually)… is the stunner in the the graphic above.

Here’s her elaboration on it in the book:

“Your creative work is not your baby; if anything, you are its baby. Everything I have ever written has brought me into being. Every project has matured me in a different way. I am who I am today precisely because of what I have made and what it has made me into. Creativity has hand-raised me and forged me into an adult…”

Liz reminds us that our creations aren’t precious, but the contact we make with ourselves and with inspiration in the process of making them is precious.

For me, this speaks to the truth that our creative energy is infinite; the well is not going to run dry. We do not need to have any sense of scarcity or clinging around what we create.

I love this idea because of what it leads me to – greater freedom – freedom from ego, freedom from fear of failure. With that freedom, I can create more boldly, and with less time wasted in intervals of regret or disappointment about how certain creations turn out.

I know that many of you reading identify as “creatives” in some way so you can apply this work to your art. What if your art isn’t your baby, but you are its baby?

Others of you are entrepreneurs, and you can understand this as it relates to your business. What if your business is not your baby, but you are its baby? What do you see now, that you didn’t see before?

And for others reading here, maybe it’s that project at work or in your community, or the handmade gift you’ve been working on for ever, or the measure you are trying to get passed in your town. What if you remember it’s not your baby, but you are its baby?

Such a relief to look at it this way, yes?

Look forward to hearing your thoughts in the comments.

And please, if you want to be creatively inspired, to rekindle or liberate or heal your creative self, pick up Liz Gilbert’s book, Big Magic.

With love,



the first question


If you saw last week’s blog post, you know I recently enrolled in an incredible online class from two of today’s foremost mindfulness meditation teachers, Tara Brach and Jack Kornfield.

In one of the Q&A video sessions, a woman stood up to ask her question. She was struggling with a food addiction. She talked about how it upended her daily life, how much she wanted to change, but found she couldn’t. She asked what advice the teachers had for her.

Tara Brach, in the kindest way, replied that she had a question for the woman.

Of course, as a coach, I was all ears. In my work, I see each day how powerful questions can be, how the right question can connect a person to their wisdom and resourcefulness, and how the wrong question can do just the opposite.

I really wanted to know: what question did Tara Brach, the wise and compassionate teacher I so admire, think was most relevant here?

Would it be about this woman’s willingness to change?
Would it be about the “why” of this addiction, the underlying needs that it filled?
Would it be about whether she had hit rock bottom yet?

Tara’s question wasn’t about any of those things. It was not a question I could have predicted.

She said, “In the midst of the pain of this addiction – and I really do know the pain of it, because addiction has been in the mix in my world – how are you relating to yourself? What’s your way of relating to the fact of, ‘Okay this addiction is here?'”

Tara explained that, in her vast experiences as a therapist and a meditation teacher, often when there’s a major shift for someone, it’s not catalyzed by a change in habits or even in their understanding of the problem. Rather, it’s a change in how the person is talking to themselves, relating to themselves, around whatever they are struggling with.

It was a powerful reminder to me: we can be kinder to ourselves about everything. Acceptance of what’s here now is the foundation for any kind of profound personal change.

So my question for you today is this: whatever you are bothered by most in yourself or in your life, whatever you are struggling with most, can you see you own suffering, your own trying, your own dear heart, and be kinder to yourself about it?

Last but not least, I want to invite you to join me for this incredibly special course. It’s a beautiful format – with video, journaling, and a very special mentorship component.

It’s for anyone who wants to start, or rekindle or strengthen a meditation practice. But beyond that, it’s truly for anyone who wants to feel a greater sense of calm and freedom in their life, and to make wiser, more clear-eyed decisions.

It has done all that for me. I hope you’ll join me! You can learn more here.