Today I wanted to share a post in “Q & A” format. Below is a note I received from a reader, Kim, along with my response. I’ve been in the same challenging spot that Kim was in when she wrote this, and I know many of you will be able to relate too. I gave my honest response – what has worked for me and what I see working effectively in the lives of the people I work with. Here’s our exchange…
 
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From Kim:

I am from the Bay Area, and currently reside in San Francisco. I love the culture, accessibility and convenience of living in a city, but I long for quiet, open space, and a small-town community feel.
 
I recognize that a “geographic” answer is not a cure because “wherever we go, there we are.” But, I truly feel called to create a home for myself close to the water, with a garden, warm weather, and open space close by. In addition, I’m longing to connect with others who share an appreciation, joy, and preference for this lifestyle.
 
In terms of my work, I am feeling called by sales. I have a background working for a large tech company, and have always assumed sales was “not for me”, or “I’m not that kind of person” but I now feel drawn to the relational aspect of sales, and the responsibility of creating/generating revenue.
 
There’s one place I feel drawn to as an option to relocate, but I don’t know where to start given my calling feels abstract at best. Including people in this process is very important to me — for the accountability and the support — but, I’m afraid to talk to people outside of my immediate circle because my vision — living in a light-filled bungalow close to the beach, with the opportunity to bike to work and share life with like-minded people and to do work that taps into my passion for a product or service and being responsible for driving a business — feels ambiguous.
 
As I’ve been journaling, I’ve gotten stuck around what to do next with these feelings. Any advice or insights you could offer would be much appreciated.

 
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From me:
 
Kim, here’s what I would say:
 
1. Remember you don’t have to figure it all out. You are not solely responsible for making your vision happen. So you can breathe a big sigh of relief. You are a co-creator in this.
 
There truly is something that happens when we set and intention / wish and put it out there – the world shows up to meet us in the process. Your role is being open to and welcoming of the vision that has arisen in your heart, keeping that vision alive in your heart, doing footwork (taking some reasonable action steps), and staying alert and awake to the feedback the world is giving you – information, opportunities, collaborators, etc. about next steps. Your work is also seeing your own limiting beliefs or fears that get in the way of your taking the opportunities the world is offering, and dealing with those beliefs/fears. But you do not have to “make” it happen, or figure out how it will all happen. You can move this forward from a posture of surrender, not knowing, and even overwhelm! Does that make sense?
 
2. Given that, here are some “next step” things for you to do:
 
Strengthen the vision of what you want for your next chapter by journaling about it, writing a “vision list” of the different components, making a collage about it, picturing it, etc. – any of those forms will work.
Treat it with a lot of love and kindness and care. Write your vision in the present tense, “I live in a beautiful home by the water and enjoy my garden everyday.” Put it somewhere where you see it regularly.
 
Brainstorm the resources you have available to help you do this. The resources could be anything from a friend that lives in the area, to craigslist listings of places in the area, to tools to deal with the fear. I like to start any project by brainstorming about available resources – so you can build on what you have available to you. Usually, we start from making a list of what we need to get from a to b, but why not start by thinking about what you have – and how you can use it?
 
Set an intention to be open to what the world brings you to help you actualize your vision. Surrender control to a power greater than you. That can be a divine power, or just the power of Life/Goodness/Creation.
 
See where you intuition would lead you in terms of action steps to take. Do some footwork action, see what comes of it.
 
Last but not least, realize your vision isn’t vague at all. I often hear clients or people in my classes saying their vision is very ambiguous – but then what comes out of their mouths sounds crystal clear! Most of us are scarred from career counselors or others telling us we had to figure out exactly what job title we wanted in order to go get a job. That if we couldn’t look a list of jobs and pick the role we wanted, then we didn’t have career direction. That’s just not true!
 
Crystal clear heart vision, soul vision, doesn’t usually show up with a particular industry and job function attached to it. A vision that comes from those deeper places in us will usually focus on the kind of life we are living, the kind of work we are doing at a very basic level, and the quality of energy that we walk through our lives with. You’ve articulated a very clear vision – in all of those senses.
 
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Do you have a question or dilemma you’d like me to respond to? Send it to tara@taramohr.com . I won’t be able to respond to all of them in posts, but I will read them and pick some to respond to. Your question can be shared anonymously or with your name.
 
Hugs,
 
Tara

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