True surrender is easily misunderstood as passivity, as doing nothing. It’s actually a change in stance, a change in state of being.
It’s a softening, a coming home to. It’s what we receive when we’ve made peace with life, and become its partner, arm in arm.
Before surrender, we act alone. We act because life is an emergency, out of control, vulnerable, worrisome, fear-inducing. We act to fix or control in response to that.
After surrender, we know we are held in a wise and loving embrace. We feel softness, not striving, in our relationship with life.
Bad things still happen. People and relationships deteriorate. Tragedies occur.
We feel the pain in it’s fullness, but we see all the beauty. We see the gifts. We don’t clench our fists against any of it.
From there, when we’re no longer yelling at life telling it how it should be,
when we’re no longer rebelling against what is, when we’re no longer fighting reality
we can take meaningful action. We can find our true role.
We wake up to what it’s all about, what all the circumstances are for: to reveal love, to call us into love, to stretch us to find love in new ways. We begin to see what the real story in our lives, and it’s all about this.
We begin to see how life is releasing exquisite gems to us in every moment, like water dripping from the tap.
Let all the circumstances, all your mental stories about them, all the plans of how it should be or should have been, let it all burn up
until what’s at the center of your life is love given, connection realized.
until your chest throbs daily with tenderness for the faces that grace your life
and the blue out the window is so stunning it brings tears to your eyes.
photo credit: Sydney Rae