Living More Authentically

Coming Home to…

By April 7, 2011 6 Comments

The world tells us in a million ways — whether through the bodies on covers of women’s magazines, or in ranking us with grades in school — that we aren’t enough, that we don’t measure up, that we have to change and reform and tweak ourselves to be acceptable.
Nothing could be further from the truth. We aren’t merely “enough,” but so much more than enough. Human beings come into this world overflowing with brilliance, shining with the sacredness that all human beings are.
As the world reflects back to us messages that we are flawed, we believe what the world tells us, and we begin a new way of looking at ourselves — full of stories about where we don’t measure up, how we are this type of person or that — and the light of us gets dimmed.
If there is any transformation to make, it is the one of coming back to awareness of our own goodness, wholeness, enoughness, trustworthyness, sacredness.
Those of us interested in inner work might talk about the glory of human beings and our souls and all that — but underneath that, we are saying: I need to change. I need to fix x about myself. There’s actually a lot of striving in the self-help world. The overarching paradigm is “I’m at point a, and I want to get to point b.”
I get that — because we all end up in adulthood carrying a lot of junk. Unhelpful fears, limiting beliefs, coping behaviors that don’t serve us, etc. We have an instinct to seek a freer, lighter, more joyful existence.
But it matters if you know, at the foundation, that you are shining and sacred and incredible and whole and nothing can take that away from you. You are already that. And life too, is already shining and sacred and incredible and whole, and nothing needs to change for you to awaken to all of that. You just need to ask to awaken to it, and to find doorways – whether reading scripture or meditating or painting or running – that helps you wake to it.
I’ve been noticing this distinction – striving for the goodness vs. coming home to the goodness that is – more as I’ve been writing more poetry. I trust what shows up in the poetry because it comes from something bigger than me, and it seems to speak to something deep in people. I started to notice: what shows up in the poetry feels so different than what shows up in my coaching or workshops. The poetry is really not about what could be, with “inner work” and change. It’s about the glory of what is. It’s not about who we could become — the potential we could fulfill. It’s about the miracle that we are.
Beside all our meager chatter about changing ourselves, a quieter voice endures, and it speaks with authority. It’s the silent, powerful mountain next to all the skirmishes happening on the land. And the mountain is whispering to us about our fundamental shining sacredness.
If there is any “transformation” to be had, it is only that, the transformation of coming home. Of seeing the utter sacredness that is present in our midst. I want to offer work that speaks to this.
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Join the discussion 6 Comments

  • Madeline says:

    This is exactly the essence of what I have been trying to internalize thru some recent difficult times. Thank you so much!

  • Kim says:

    I often forget this. It’s already here. Just sent to my two daughters as a reminder. Thank you so much.

  • Christa says:

    Just what I needed to be reminded of and very much what is floating in my heart right now. Loving what is.

    Thank you for this and all that gorgeous poetry…

  • Marianne says:

    Beautiful, true and bear repeating over and over again.

    Thank you Tara.

  • ‘Coming home to the goodness that is..’

    I know this but forget this all the time, thanks for the gentle and heart-felt reminder.

  • Anita says:

    thank you Tara! words I obviously have to think about these days, because this reminds me of a poem I found yesterday:

    Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate,
    but that we are powerful beyond measure.

    It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us.
    We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant,
    gorgeous, handsome, talented and fabulous?

    Actually, who are you not to be?
    You are a child of God.

    Your playing small does not serve the world.
    There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
    so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

    We were born to make manifest the glory of God within us.
    It is not just in some; it is in everyone.

    And, as we let our own light shine, we consciously give
    other people permission to do the same.

    As we are liberated from our fear,
    our presence automatically liberates others.

    Our Deepest Fear
    by Marianne Williamson from A Return To Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles

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